Don’t Sweat it : Keys Toward Living Less Stressfully

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Writing this chapter was really challenging for me. I used to be a person who would always allow the smallest things get to me. I would overthink the smallest details. Details, when it all comes down to it, would mean nothing in the end. Whenever we are dealing with bad news, a difficult person, or a disappointment of some kind, most of us get into certain habits.

We have our “ways” to handle certain situations. We tend to overreact and focus on the negative aspects of our immediate situations. And when this happens, we stress out, raise our blood pressure level to an all-time high, annoy others, and waste time trying to solve things that don’t matter. It has been studied that those who stress less on the small stuff has a longer life span than most people by a whopping 56%!

Keep in mind that the more you stress, the more likely you take away from your life. This ranges from being that person on the road with road rage because the driver in front of you cut you off to the person who always wants to prove you wrong about something. I will show you a way to deal with that in a few short moments here. For now, I just want you to fully understand what you’re about to learn here. There are huge dividends that will be paid out if you can fully grasp this concept.

“Don’t sweat the small stuff. Things that won’t matter when you reach the final moments of your life.”

Will you really remember that one time some random driver cut you off? Perhaps he or she was in a hurry. Do you remember those times when you were running late and you sped all the way to your destination? You can probably relate to that driver. The best thing to do at a time like that, instead of following the person just to confront them or begin to yell at the top of your lungs knowing that they can’t hear you anyway, is to simply allow that person to get into a car accident somewhere else.

Wouldn’t you agree that you rather have it happen somewhere else instead of with you? I know what you must be saying right now. “But Lorenzo, I’m justified in my anger! They could have killed me!” Hey buddy, I’m right there with you. I didn’t always take this route myself. I just found out that by taking this concept and applying to my life, I got some serious pay backs for it.

My stress levels went down and I began to see some real changes occur. I started to enjoy my life! On the flip side of this coin, if you find yourself running late because of traffic or you overslept to an appointment, engagement, or to work, I want you to take a deep breath and realize this:

“You’re already late. You might as well grab a sandwich.”

I know that it may sound silly, but it’s the truth. People are already going to be “upset” that you weren’t on time. Why rush and possibly get into a car accident or rush out the house still hungry? You will notice that this will drastically decrease stress. No one is going to remember that one day you was late to work 20 years from now.

Might I suggest that you leave a few minutes earlier? Or set your alarm for an earlier time to wake up. This will alleviate a great amount of stress from your morning routine. They have a saying in the Navy: “If you’re on time, you’re late. If you’re early, then you’re on time”.

What about that one guy at work who is always trying to prove you wrong, even though you have sufficient proof to back up everything that you say? Most people in that situation would be stressing out at this point trying their hardest not to hit the guy. You tend to think that the guy has a personal vendetta out for you. This is when you should implement this concept…….

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“What is the P.O.O.R Mindset: Living Within Uncertainty”

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What is opportunity? Many would argue that opportunity is that golden moment when you are in the right place at the right time within the right situation. However, very rarely will opportunity show itself in such a manner. Most times, opportunity is that time when your boss told you to clean the toilets in the CEO washroom or that one time you got stuck doing the jobs that nobody else wanted to do. Or maybe your friend that is doing well in his life and he offers you opportunity to join something big.

  Often times, opportunity is disguised and without the wisdom to take it, it tends to reveal itself, golden and all, in a later time when the opportunity itself is no longer within your reach. This happened when Mark Zuckerberg invited five of his friends to see what he was working on and be a part of it. Nobody knew that Facebook would grow into the titan it is today.  Only two people showed up to that dorm room that night to seize an opportunity that would make them rich beyond their wildest dreams.

  At first, it was disguised as something small. This is what three of Mark’s friends perceived it as at first. However, now the opportunity has long passed them by and their lifestyles would forever remain the same. As for the two that showed up, they can live the rest of their lives as billionaires. Here is the thing: when such opportunities present themselves, all the information about what it is will be revealed onto you once you decide to take it. To simply put it, legit opportunities work out for those who open their minds to it and decide to capitalize on it.

  Now here is the golden question that everybody wants to know. Where do opportunities come from? 97% of people in America believe that opportunities appear out of thin air. That one must be blessed or kissed by an angel to receive one. But understand that those who believe in gaining anything that way will not see a true opportunity when it reveals itself. No. Opportunities come from other people. Other people who are in a position of strength. Many people turn their noses up to such opportunities in hopes that their “thin air opportunities” will show up. This reminds me of the acronym P.O.O.R that brings most people to the depths of poverty and living without growth. P.O.O.R stands for Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly. Are you?

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Do You Have Your Compass?: The Tell-Tell Way Toward Accomplishing Your Dreams

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We, the human race, have faced an array of “emotions” due to the complex and complicated situations and circumstances that we tend to get into. Even though we want all of our dreams to come true, many of us may be in “negative” circumstances that may not allow such aspirations to come to pass. However, we all work with a guage that determines if we are on the right path to accomplishing our dreams or if we have strayed. We tend to feel joy,happiness, love, peace, hope, gratitude, and many other positive emotions when we wind up in positive circumstances.

  On the other end of that spectrum, we tend to feel depression, hate, anger, sadness, pain, jealously, and other negative emotions when we land into negative circumstances. Even though all the feelings are very much detailed, there are only two types of feelings that guide us through our path to our dreams and life in general: Good and Bad. Have you ever done something in your life or was about to do something, and you recieved a “vibe” from it? Either you felt a good vibe or a bad one. Either way, you felt something right?

  When we set a goal for ourselves or decide to take that path to accomplish our dreams, or greatest compass is our feelings. Have you ever heard someone tell you to “follow your gut” or “trust your instincts”? The type of people you hear give this solem advice are ranked amongst the greatest of their time. Deep rooted in our minds is a mechanism that can’t be broken down by science or explained. Our “emotional compass” will usually tell us if we are off our path to accomplishing what we truly want.

  Yet, most people tend to “fight” those instincts and make a choice based off of what other people suggest they do. Even though those suggestions aren’t in the best interest of getting what they want. This is when we land in those negative circumstances I mentioned earlier. It’s like if your goal is in the north and you chose to go east instead based off of what the stranger up the street told you. Would you be surprised if you wind up in the wrong place?

  I can already hear the so called “experts” and critics now: “facts are facts! You should base your decisions off of statistics and what’s already been done. It’s safer with less risk!” Blah, blah, blah. These are the same people who still are spinning their wheels in the mud and wondering why they haven’t progressed yet. Even though this may be true to some degree, and I mean to SOME degree, it’s not what will get you to living your dream life and accomplishing all your goals. Learn to trust your gut again and use your emotional compass. You’ll have a 97.99999% chance of reaching your goals alot faster than to base your decisions off of “what is”.

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Automatic Wealth: The Power of Single-Point Focusing

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There are many unsuccessful business owners whose main objective is to accumulate as much wealth as possible.  Then you have the successful business owners who chose to focus on something other than the money. Just like a shadow that follows you everywhere you go, wealth will follow the person who is focused on a single point of achievement. Dependent upon what you are focused on will determine the amount of wealth you automatically accumulate. Have you ever heard the saying: “Do what makes you happy and the money will follow?”

  Just take some time to think about that. Bill Gates didn’t concentrate on the wealth aspect of his invention, Microsoft. He did what he love to do. He was focused on creating technology how he saw it. Now he is the wealthiest man in the world.

  He is not the only one who used “single point focusing” to start the automatic wealth process.  Starting off as a reporter at a news station, she took the world by storm by caring for the people in her stories other than just reporting the news. Her sole mission was to help people. Now after years of doing so by self help, lifestyle developing, and helping new actors become celebrities, she is now the wealthiest African American woman in the world.

  I can go on and on with examples on how single point focusing has helped jump start the automatic wealth process for many people, but you should get the point by now. It doesn’t seem to matter where you are or what endeavor you choose to be involved in, single point focusing works and has been for some time now. Now the question that is being asked is: How does one develop this skill and create an automatic wealth cycle?

· If there isn’t a service or product in line with what you want to do, create it.

· If there is an opportunity such as a network marketing company that has a product in line with what you want to accomplish, make sure your vision and the company’s vision are one and the same. Conflict between the two will result in no movement and will not start the automatic wealth process.

· You must be passionate about the single point that you are focusing on. Failure to do so will result in no progress.

· It’s all about focusing on the BIGGER PICTURE such as changing lives or helping create something that will revolutionize the world . Focusing on something as immediate as wealth but only ensure that you don’t reach wealth.

· Ask yourself: What’s the one thing that I can do that by doing it everything else falls into place? What does success look like for me?

  Remember that by focusing on the bigger picture and acting on it, you are creating a path where a wealth can follow you. It took me years to understand this. It’s not about the money. See money as a tool, not as an end to your means. #automaticwealth #kyaniselfdevelopment #teamfusion #powerofpassion #singlepointfocusing

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“Becoming A Self Made Success Story: Controlling Your Daily Experience”

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“That guy really ruined my day”. “I hate this place. Can’t wait to go home”. “This traffic is horrible. What a horrible way to start my day.” “Oh wow. I wasn’t picked for the promotion! Well, my day is shot!”

Do any of these sound familiar? Why is it that most people always place the blame of having a bad day on outside circumstances and other people? Not fully realizing that the “sway” of the day depends completely on our attitudes going into it. Here’s the thing: just like I mentioned in my book, The CEO Effect, we create our day as we go along. I know there may be people out there in this world who would disagree with my statement. However, allow me to further explain what I mean. Yes, things may happen throughout your day that you may find upsetting and undesirable. But that can’t be helped. What does determine the rest of the day is how you respond. Everyone gets 24 hours a day. No more, no less. And life, in general, is nothing more than a mirror. Whatever you decide to show it, life will reflect it back to you. How you choose to live out your 24 hours is determined by your overall attitude of the day.

In reality, there is no such thing as a “bad” day. There are just “days”. Our attitude mixed with our mental state determines if it goes smoothly or rough. So how do you deal with the boss who is determined to make your time at work a living hell? Simple. Allow him or her to speak, and move on with your day as though nothing happened. Remember this: YOU CREATE YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE. If you decide to brew over what they did or said to you, you are doing nothing but wasting precious thoughts on someone not worthy to even be in them. Let me tell you something: getting angry at someone else and allowing them to take up the majority of your thoughts is like drinking your own poison and expecting the other person to receive the effects. You’re only killing yourself. I can guarantee you that they aren’t even thinking of you when it’s all said and done.

Remember these points when stepping out the door and beginning your day:

-You cannot control the actions of other people. All you can do is control your responses. It doesn’t matter what happens to you. What does matter is what you choose as a response.

-Try not to get into pointless arguments. Seriously, it wastes your precious time. You get no prize for winning. If they are wrong, let them be. Every man and woman has every right to be just as wrong as they want to be. Let it go. Move on with your day.

-What others think of you is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! Mind yours and watch how life unfolds for you.

-Concentrate on more positives throughout your day. When you do this, opportunities begin to show up more and more.

-Laugh throughout most of your day. Laughter is the medicine that can heal any bad feeling you may get from dealing with circumstances and people. And it brings more positive people and circumstances your way.

-Realize that God made you in His image. Life happens to all of us. Have faith that what we go through is nothing more than another adventure or lesson to learn. It will be alright.

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“The Three Energies: What Determines the Final Outcome?”

 

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I started an experiment on my life based off of a theory that I came up with to see what results I would get from it. After a few weeks of bringing positive energy to all my situations, shortly after realizing what negative and neutral energy does, I have discovered a fundamental truth that has truly changed my experience in life and produced results far from what I’m used too. I had an “ah ha” moment and now decided to share this info with all you readers.

At many points in our lives, we encounter challenges that require some sort of response. The nature of the action we choose will determine the nature of the outcome. Actions to our everyday challenges are divided into three energy types: Positive action, Neutral action, and Negative action. For those who seek to gain more control over their lives can learn these three factors. Let me further explain and define these three types of action that had an tremendous effect on my life.

“Positive action is a response that provides positive feedback to situations, circumstances, and challenges that will eventually lead to a positive outcome.”(Reacting with a positive mental attitude) Usually when we face obstacles, we perceive them to be negative. In most cases, they usually are. However, when life places you in negative situations and you react with positive actions, the situation tends to iron out and you discover there was really nothing to worry about. If we can create a habit of performing positive actions with all our situations, we would live a much more positive life with more positive results no matter what we decide to get into(business, relationships, etc.)

“Neutral action is a response that is neither positive or negative.” Nothing is gained or lost from this type of action. Depending on the type of situation, circumstance, or challenge that you go through, the outcome will remain unchanged. It’s the equivalant of doing nothing at all. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice and therefore a form of action.

“Negative action is a response that provides negative feedback to situations, circumstances, and challenges that will eventually lead to a negative outcome”. For example, you encounter a negative situation and you react with negative action. I can guarantee you that you will not like the final result. It goes to that saying, “an eye for an eye will leave the whole world blind”. This is why revenge will always hurt both parties in some way, fashion, or form. And the main reason why someone said that if you seek vengance, dig two graves: one for you and one for the other person. When it comes to handling problems at work, panicing and going into a frenzy(negative action) will only ensure that the problem gets worse.

My point is this: if we all embrace positivity as the centerpiece to our lives, we will reach our goals faster and live a productive lifestyle. Keep adding positives to your life and watch how people respond to you. Positive power is far more powerful than that of negative power. Keep adding!

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